In her first paragraph, she states: "I can assure you the lack of quality education, the lack of employment opportunities, and the lack of quality healthcare are issues that are far more troubling than gay marriage in the black community."
Fair enough. But "far more troubling" to whom? I posit that they are JUST as important and just as troubling to gays, lesbians, bisexuals and transgender members OF the black community, who are likewise affected.
While I understand the gist of the writer's post, it is, perhaps, unwise to relegate a segment of our community to the outer banks of the community-general.
The dichotomy of the writer saying that LGBT people are our "brothers and sisters", but that we are not important enough to be a valued plank in the community platform, is at once infuriating and short-sighted.
"STOP! Did the writer just state that the "GAY" problem can wait?
This demonstrates just how little she seems to know about the real lives, and trials of that 3.X percent of GLBTI individuals in this nation.
Our troubles as black folks are not new. And they are OUR responsibility to heal and cure! With all the challenges we face as a community, we can ill-afford to alienate potential soldiers in the battle because of whom they love.
And when the double-dealing pastor gets in the pulpit to sermonize about what we NEED to do as a PEOPLE--- and three hours later is doing his "do" with some other MAN(!?!); when we SHOUT and start speaking in tongues and waving handkerchiefs about our next steps to help ourselves as a people--- and then go spend our RENT money in the CLUB; When our children need help with their homework--- and we are CLUELESS about how to assist them--- because it is above our skill set... many of our problems are our own doing!
When we spend our last DIME on LIKKAH AND "Sunday- Go-To-MEETIN'" attire... and don't share a penny on community outreach...
It TAKES a village to raise and nurture that village: We don't toil? We don't eat! We don't hunt? We get eaten! GLBTI people are still PART of our village! How DARE someone assert that we don't matter enough to give a damn about, and that we can WAIT for our equality, dignity, rights and protections?
Black parents, who happen to be GLBTI, many of whom are adopting the kids that their straight counterparts were too ignorant, ill-prepared, irresponsible and inept to raise--- WE are working for the village!
But we cannot have more than one-thousand rights and responsibilities that straight people do as a result of the lack of complete marriage equality. Google it. Stop drinking the, disengaged, ill-informed Kool-Aid and put yourself in the position of GLBTI families who desperately rely on the substantive benefits of recognized marriage to OUR families!
The writer is correct! There are dire, critical issues that blight the African-American family. Yes. We black people have MANY problems, but certainly we are capable of expanding the war strategy to include that tiny percentage of those we would rather shove back into a closet as inconsequential?
Principal among them is the blatant, ridiculous hypocrisy of much of the black community--- who preach one thing, and do whatever the hell they want on SATURDAY... and say "Hallelujah", HUNGOVER, all day SUNDAY!!
We are all family. Gay or straight or other. If we continue to collectively think of gays as some demonic, drag-queen dressin', rainbow flag wavin', finger-snappin' devil, we are part of the problem.
Take a guess at how many GLBTI BLACK PEOPLE are breaking their NECKS to try to HELP our children have a better life, through education, for example.
I remember working in my classroom (like an Egyptian slave with no hay for the BRICKS) --- trying to educate our disenfranchised, hard-headed, unruly, untrained, manner-less, knuckle-headed kids... they deserved my best effort, just as much as the "perfect" student.
My people, how can we fight the WORLD together, when we cannot even LOVE and support and recognize and value each OTHER!?!?!? Stop it.
Not everything in life is clearly "black and white", but there is no gray area in EQUALITY."