Butter Coming Home to... roost.
And she apologised for it. And was fired because of the allegations. Her reputation is destroyed for an alleged improper action of some time ago. How high a price is too high for ignorance and stupidity? She's a cook... not a Grand Wizard.
A "Plantation Style" wedding, with African-American servers, OBVIOUSLY, recalling the ROMANCE of slave servants? WHAT the FECK is WrOnG with her!????
Based on the evidence at the time of this post, I'm not ready to decapitate the woman quite yet. She is a white woman, from Albany, Georgia. Born and bred in Southern, racist, anti-black Georgia.
MOST, if not all, southern, pre-civil-rights white people called people of my height "Nigger" as readily, and easily as announcing the time--- or ordering from a menu!
Old habits die hard. Just marinate on that for a moment.
Here's part of the transcript:
UPDATE 6/19, 3:40 P.M.: The Huffington Post has obtained a transcript of the deposition in question. The quotes below are pulled directly from it.
On using the N-word:
Lawyer: Have you ever used the N-word yourself?
Deen: Yes, of course.
Lawyer: Okay. In what context?
Deen: Well, it was probably when a black man burst into the bank that I was working at and put a gun to my head.
Lawyer: Okay. And what did you say?
Deen: Well, I don't remember, but the gun was dancing all around my temple ... I didn't -- I didn't feel real favorable towards him.
Lawyer: Okay. Well, did you use the N-word to him as he pointed a gun in your head at your face?
Deen: Absolutely not.
Lawyer: Well, then, when did you use it?
Deen: Probably in telling my husband.
Lawyer: Okay. Have you used it since then?
Deen: I'm sure I have, but it's been a very long time.
Lawyer: Can you remember the context in which you have used the N-word?
Lawyer: Has it occurred with sufficient frequency that you cannot recall all of the various context in which you've used it?
Deen: No, no.
Lawyer: Well, then tell me the other context in which you've used the N-word?
Deen: I don't know, maybe in repeating something that was said to me.
Lawyer: Like a joke?
Deen: No, probably a conversation between blacks. I don't -- I don't know. But that's just not a word that we use as time has gone on. Things have changed since the '60s in the south. And my children and my brother object to that word being used in any cruel or mean behavior. As well as I do.
That moment when your shit comes back to bite you. OR--- that moment when your desperate, petrified apology #fails.
I saved a man's life once. I made my grandmother pull over, let me out of the car, and I knelt at his side until the EMS arrived. Once they loaded him into the ambulance, I asked where they were taking him, and i begged her to drive me and went to the hospital to be certain that he was okay.
When I entered the hospital room, he refused to speak to me. We were classmates. We laughed and joked together every day. I thought we were friends. Hence my kneeling in the middle of the road holding his blood-seeping skull, and brain matter, together with my hands. He got hit by a car leaving school. His parents said "Jack! Say "thank you" to the guy!" His response?
"I don't owe that nigger nothing!"
Maybe that is why I'm not "mortally wounded" by Ms Deen's ENORMOUS, fecking HUGE, EPIC "faux pas". I've been called that word by white people all my life. Some with rancor, and others by habit. Some were malicious. Others were just common, white-trash with no prospects, and a bit of envy at my lot.
Either way, I submit that the word was just as normal in her vocabulary, as any southern white person of her era. Some of whom said it in the manner of description. An adjective. Still others used it as an epithet.
The woman has been elevated in the media by Oprah! If I was Ms. Winfrey, I'd be a little miffed to learn that a person that I HELPED, thought of me as a "nigger". Oh, Wait! they did.
Ms. Deen has been a celebrity of some charitability, working in support of such causes as Children, Human Rights, Hunger.
Maybe Ms. Deen, since the time of these alleged offenses, has come to, as proclaimed, grown to a point where "color of your skin--- religion--- your sexual preference do not matter". That would be nice.
I live in a place in the deep-south where most people won't, generally, just say it to your face (at least not in MY town), though they ABSOLUTELY WILL say it within earshot, and behind your back. Whereas in Ms. Deen's epoch, they would have, and did, say it to your face or carve it into your skin!
I've often spoken of relics of the dark, horrible days of the past. Of those people who refuse to embrace The New Patriotism, even at the risk of being left behind--- absolutely stewing and drowning in a vat of their own, hatred, resoluteness, and shit.
Ms. Deen may be sincere in her apology. Though nobody will ever convince me that the bulk of her tears are not the result of recognizing her abject stupidity, as she watches her empire burn to ash.
When a white person wrongs, hurts, attacks, or threatens me, I refuse to use some racist word on them. I usually call them a dick, or an asshole, or the like. If I were to do so, I'd be just as repugnant as those who hurl nasty words at me. It's to easy to sling a rude word, than to be the better person. A person who isn't a lemming who does what "everyone ELSE does"--- "because that's how I grew up".
I call bullshit! But, while I'm shocked at how willingly people still slosh the word "nigger" around--- even at our Commander-in-Chief--- especially by those who sit in their lofty, judgemental perches, stereotypically excoriating minorities as lower life forms, even while whispering the "N-Word" in their private cadres, and hidden conversations! How dare they? It PROVES that we have SO MUCH FARTHER to go!
Not clinging onto habit, or penchant, is. a. CHOICE! It's a CHOICE, for ALL OF US, to evolve. Evidently, Ms. Deen failed to recognize that she is not above decency... regardless of upbringing, or custom.
Does she deserve to lose her livelihood? In this case, possibly. Perhaps not. Such a hard, and bitter, lesson to learn.
Only Ms. Deen, and God know the content of her heart. It isn't my place to judge.
"He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone..." - John 8:7